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Should I Leave My Job?

As a society, we talk about red flags when it comes to dating all the time. But the relationships we have with our jobs and careers can be just as detrimental to our health and wellbeing as a shitty relationship.

So today let’s talk about something that’s not always easy to discuss (but is absolutely necessary): knowing when it’s time to leave your goddamn job. 

As Black and brown women, we face unique challenges in the workplace, from navigating microaggressions to dealing with pay inequality. But sometimes, despite our best efforts, we find ourselves in situations that just aren’t right for us.

So, how do you know when it’s time to say goodbye to that job that’s been draining your energy and stifling your growth? Here are some signs to look out for:

You’re Experiencing Hella Microaggressions and Discrimination

Girl, we’ve all been there – that coworker who always seems to make those “jokes” or that manager who questions your qualifications at every turn. But when those microaggressions start piling up, and you find yourself constantly battling discrimination based on your race or gender, it’s a red flag waving high af in the wind.

Don’t let anyone make you feel less than you are, babe. If you’ve tried addressing the issue and nothing changes, it might be time to bounce. They say the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. If you’ve tried addressing the issues at work time and time again, but nothing seems to change, it’s past damn time to accept that some things just aren’t meant to be.

Especially if you’re out here putting in the work, going above and beyond, but when it comes time for recognition, it’s like you’re invisible. It’s not just about wanting a pat on the back; it’s about feeling seen and appreciated for your contributions. You deserve to be celebrated. If you’re not getting the recognition you deserve, it might be time to find a company that values and appreciates you for who you are.

You can’t let yourself get caught in a cycle of toxicity, sis. Recognize when it’s time to cut your losses and move on to better things.

There’s a Lack of Advancement Opportunities and Your Pay is Trash

You’re smart, talented, and ambitious – you’ve got big dreams and even bigger goals, fam. But if you’re stuck in a job where there’s no room to grow, it can feel like you’re hitting your head against a goddamn brick wall.

Don’t settle for mediocrity. If you’ve been putting in the work but the opportunities just aren’t there, it might be time to spread your wings and fly somewhere that’ll let you actually soar.

Also, if you’re putting in the same –  or let’s bffr more – work than your counterparts but, when that paycheck comes around, it feels like you’re getting the short end of the stick, you gotta stop letting people play in your face. Pay inequality isn’t just frustrating; it’s downright disrespectful.

Know your worth, sis. If you’ve tried negotiating for fair compensation and you’re still being undervalued, don’t be afraid to walk away. There are plenty of companies out there that will recognize and appreciate your talents.

The Office Culture is Unsupportive or Your Values are Misaligned

Work should be more than just a place you go to earn a paycheck – it should be a space where you feel supported, valued, and respected. But if you’re in an environment that’s toxic and unsupportive, it can take a toll on your mental and emotional well-being.

Don’t let anyone dim your light, fam. If you’re not feeling the love at work, it’s okay to look for greener pastures where you can thrive, not just survive.

This ties directly into our values as well. If you’re a woman of integrity with values that you hold at the core of your being, but you’re in a job where those values are constantly being compromised, it’s like being asked to betray yourself every single day.

Sis, please don’t compromise who you are for a paycheck. Find a company that aligns with your values and principles – trust me, it’ll make all the difference in the world.

You’re Experiencing Burnout or Feeling Stuck/Unfulfilled

Girl, we’re all about hustling hard and chasing our dreams, but there’s a fine line between dedication and burnout. If you find yourself constantly stressed, exhausted, and on the verge of a breakdown, it’s time to pump the brakes and prioritize your mental health. You can’t pour from an empty cup, sis. So take a step back, recharge, and if that means leaving a job that’s sucking the life out of you, so be it.

And in the same vein, life is too short to spend it doing something that doesn’t fulfill you or bring you joy. If you’re waking up every morning dreading the day ahead, it’s time to ask yourself if this is really how you want to spend the rest of your life. You deserve to live a life that excites you, fam. Don’t let fear hold you back from pursuing your passions and chasing your dreams.

You’ve Got Valid Health and Safety Concerns (or a Gut Instinct to Bounce)

Your health and safety should always be your top priority, no ifs, ands, or buts about it. If you’re in a work environment that’s putting you at risk – whether it’s physically, emotionally, or mentally – it’s time to get out, no questions asked. You only get one body and one mind, sis. Don’t sacrifice them for a job that isn’t worth it.

And on that note; sometimes your intuition knows things that your mind hasn’t quite caught up to yet. If something feels off – whether it’s the company culture, your boss, or the work itself – don’t ignore that feeling. Trust yourself, babe. Your gut knows what’s up, even if your brain hasn’t quite caught on yet.

Let’s Wrap This Shit Up

At the end of the day your happiness, well-being, and growth should always come first. Now, I’m never gonna tell someone to leave a job if they don’t have a backup plan (because late-stage capitalism sucks and unfortunately we all need money to live). But don’t be afraid to start putting together a plan to walk away from a job that isn’t serving you. 

You don’t have to stay in one line of work forever when there are plenty of opportunities out there just waiting for someone as talented and badass as you. You’ve got this, sis. And you know how to find us if you need any help with your transformation 😘

Drop a comment below and let us know if any of these red flags hit close to home!

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tiffiny mccurry
tiffiny mccurry
2 days ago

Thank you for saying all that sis! It was like you were in my head. I am so burned out and have nothing from this job that would make me want to stay. I just finished my big cry after reading this and I am ready to do something about it. Like you said, got to have a plan and my daddy always says, you can find a job if you already have one.

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